limerence. an involuntary, obsessive state of intense romantic infatuation, characterized by intrusive thoughts, idealization of the other person and a deep need for their reciprocation, often fueled by uncertainty and unmet needs from childhood, making it feel like an addiction rather than healthy love. Symptoms include euphoria or despair, anxiety, preoccupation, and difficulty focusing on other aspects of life, with causes potentially linked to insecure attachments or trauma. Sometimes queer love can feel like limerence. This complicated thing that we’re still creating after years of hiding in bedrooms, club bathrooms, photo booths. Stolen kisses with your best friend, the one you’re not supposed to touch. If we haven’t had examples of what queer love looks like on tv or in real life, can we still create those examples ourselves. Sometimes such deep love is infatuation at first, naive, limerence.