Dom, sometime “bro,” got throat cancer just as we were falling out of contact

So, how to react, support a womanizer and a beast?

Life’s more complex than these categories

But that doesn’t mean you have to be like you are

Life looped around when I met another Dom, a woman, confident but introverted, at a coffee shop in Queens

I was at the counter

She didn't give me a chance to escape

I would’ve been happy to ignore her

Out of politeness, obstinance, that New York City charm,

I don’t know

Maybe I’m just shy

Hegemonic masculinity, she told me,

And certain things made sense

The other Dom survived

And I don’t feel guilty